Ancient cultures used to celebrate the feminine & masculine divine energies that inhabit all humans. In an attempt to control indigenous people and their land, westerners deemed it illegal for these cultures to honor this tradition. In the act of doing so, it gave rise to what we now know as the patriarchy. This shift not only disrupted the harmony in society as a whole, it impacted the individual’s ability to achieve happiness within themselves.⁠⁠
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What does any of this have to do with family? A family is only as healthy as they are balanced in their feminine and masculine entities. This does NOT pertain to male/female couples only. Gender surprisingly has little to no bearing on the masculinity of a person. We all know feminine males and masculine females. It only matters that you honor the energy that feels authentic to your being… as long as you don’t deny the other aspect of yourself. ⁠⁠
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If you are abused by a woman when you’re a woman, you may want to be more masculine, and completely avoid being feminine. We think that we’re protecting ourselves from further harm, but we’re actually preventing men (if that’s your preferred sexual orientation) from feeling safe around us. We will then attract inferior men as partners, and wonder why there’s no “real men” anymore. There is an energetic polarity that must take place in all healthy romantic relationships. If you are not attracting what you desire out of a partner, then you must change something within yourself. This rule applies in most areas of life. ⁠⁠
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I offered this photo of my family to highlight this message, because I am the woman abused by a woman. In all of my relationships, I dominated my partners and would get frustrated by their inadequacies. The only reason I was able to attract my husband and create this healthy family is because I committed to shifting my idea of womanhood. I’m still a masculine female, but I let my husband lead because I finally feel safe in doing so.⁠⁠
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I hope this message serves you well. Insights are always welcome. ❤️⁠⁠

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